Over half of people who "divorce" a parent say they were the ones who made the move. They just prefer that all be forgotten. If I disagreed with my mother, refused to obey or allow her to abuse me, she would accuse me of hurting her. The fact remains that some relationships are just not healthy for either party and unfortunately that will never change. I never thought he would admit his mistakes, as he has done.
5 Reasons Why Adult Children Estrange From Their Parents
No relationship is worth sacrificing your personal sense of well-being. Suddenly I was able to see the truth of the family dysfunction. Mothers can give their daughters negative impressions of their divorced dads — sometimes without even trying. They just prefer that all be forgotten. Fine, the pain of EPs can be acknowledged, but it's their responsibility to deal with their feelings in a healthy and appropriate way the 'doctor' clearly doesn't agree with this.
Study of relationships between adult children and parents
I cried many tears in the discussions with my own children. The challenge becomes how to find common ground without overstepping the comfortable boundaries between you. Life is hard but doing it sober and having a very difficult relationship with a parent makes it a bitch! As a young child your parents were the leaders of the family. Some of us get really "lucky" with the parent lottery, don't we. Maybe the daughter has some other reasons for estrangement. No one picked up on that.
Once I got away, my life got so much better. A couple of days before this i sent him a message telling him about my heartache at what he was doing. And if that means losing my whole extended family, so be it- they haven't supported me at all through this. Do not expect Mom and Dad to do things for you, such as pick up your dry-cleaning or take care of the kids. I am not cutting off communications with her or my dad.